Sexuality is an independent trait and it is free of gender, norms, traditions, and brought up.
Sexuality is a feeling, and like any feeling, it does not have to be rational. It is just the way you feel. It is what you feel drawn towards, irrespective of what sexual organs you or the other person has.
And like any other feeling, sexuality is a complex one too. You cannot box it. You cannot make a set of rules and fit your feeling in it. Feelings are free, and so is sexuality.
Variations in Sexuality:
Sexuality is who you feel attracted to. Finding out that you feel attracted to somebody who does not fit society’s norms can be an overwhelming feeling. It can make one feel anxious, nervous, and even sick. But it is also something that one cannot run from.
Discovering your sexuality can be the most liberating feeling. But it can also make you naïve during the process.
While you will be feeling low about yourself while discovering your sexuality, it is possible that the people around you also give you a hard time. It is human nature to fear something different, unusual, and new. It can intimidate both you and the people around you.
The experiment is the Key to Success:
If you feel sure about your sexuality and belong to a community that is the most accepted one, it is well and good.
But if you feel like your sexuality is an unconventional one, the journey ahead can be inconvenient and exhausting.
You have to hold it tight and be patient with yourself and others. Your sexuality will lead you through the path itself. You have to trust it and be open to experiment till you find what fits just right with your feelings.
There are many types of sexuality on record now. Some of them are as follows:
Heterosexuality and Homosexuality:
Heterosexuality is taking an interest in people of the opposite sex to you, whereas homosexuality is taking an interest in people of the same sex as you.
Homosexuality further breaks down to “lesbians” and “gays.”
Lesbians are women who are sexually interested in other women, and gays are men who are sexually interested in other men.
Bisexuality means to take an interest in both men and women.
It is to experience very little or no sexual attraction at all towards anybody.
In pansexuality, a person is open to anybody for sexual interaction regardless of their sex.
The community of people who have sexuality other than heterosexuality is termed as LGTQI community. LGBTQI expands to “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, and Intersex.”
Some sexualities may not be mentioned, but all of them come under the same community.
LGBTQ and Mental Health:
As having different sexuality is intimidating at first and makes a person naïve, they become more prone to having mental health issues.
They can feel low self-confidence and lack of self-esteem. Added with the societal pressure of being different or ‘sick,’ it is nothing unusual for an average human to become depressed, anxious, and suicidal.
The most common issues that lead to this situation are:
- Self-doubt and denial
- Societal Pressure
- Verbal and Physical Abuse
- Lack of Support
Advice and Support for LGBTQ:
The purpose of RFGN is to provide support to the LGBTQ community. We understand the harshness of the process and consider it our responsibility to support our fellows.
Here are some tips to help you cope up with the situation:
- Maintain Distance from the people that are abusive to you. You have your battles to fight.
- Stay Close to people who are supportive of you as a human being.
- Prioritize Yourself and don’t care too much about the society
- Stay Healthy, eat well, and exercise regularly.
- Be kind with yourself, and don’t hold anything against anybody.
- Take Your Time and be patient until you are content with yourself.
- Do Not Rush into a relationship because you feel alone.
- Stay Engaged and don’t be alone and free.
- Read Up and know better so that you can choose better.
- Contact RFGN because it is your platform, made to care for you and support you.