Sexuality is not about who you have sex with, or how often you have it. Sexuality is about your sexual feelings, thoughts, attractions and behaviours towards other people. You can find other people physically, sexually or emotionally attractive, and all those things are a part of your sexuality.

Sexuality is diverse and personal, and it is an important part of who you are. Discovering your sexuality can be a very liberating, exciting and positive experience.

Some people experience discrimination due to their sexuality. If someone gives you a hard time about your sexuality, it’s good to talk to someone about it.



Sometimes, it can take time to figure out the sexuality that fits you best. And your sexuality can change over time. It can be confusing; so don’t worry if you are unsure.

There are common types to describe LGBT sexuality.


Heterosexual and homosexual

Most people are attracted to the opposite sex – boys who like girls, and women who like men, for example. These people are heterosexual, or ‘straight’.
Some people are attracted to the same sex. These people are homosexual.

Lesbian’ is the common term for people who identify as women and are same-sex attracted.

‘Gay’ is the most common term for people who identify as men and are same-sex attracted.



Sexuality can be more complicated than being straight or gay. Some people are attracted to both men and women, and are known as bisexual.



Person who identifies as asexual (‘ace’ for short) is someone who does not experience, or experiences very little, sexual attraction.


Sexuality and mental health

LGBTI people have an increased risk of depression, anxiety, substance abuse, homelessness, self-harming and suicidal thoughts, compared with the general population. This is particularly true of young LGBTI people who are coming to terms with their sexuality and experiencing victimisation and bullying at school.

Some of the stressful experiences that can affect the mental health of an LGBTI person are:

  • feeling different from other people
  • being bullied (verbally or physically)
  • feeling pressure to deny or change their sexuality.
  • feeling worried about coming out, and then being rejected or isolated.
  • feeling unsupported or misunderstood.

These pressures are on top of all the other stuff people have to deal with in life such as managing school, finding a job, forming relationships and making sense of your identity and place in the world.


How To Live A Healthy Sexual Lifestyle

  • Don’t hang around people who are abusive to you.
  • Remember there is no rush in changing sexual lifestyle, take your time and don’t put pressure.
  • Stay in a healthy relationship, that wants your both grow and prosperity.
  • Go for your routine healthcare check, you an your partner to stay healthy.
  • Eat well, and a good dietary.
  • Do exercise often
  • Sleep when it’s time to sleep, to help the brain and mind function well
  • Don’t cheat on your partner, it’s always heartbroken
  • Talk to someone about your fears and doubt, or you can log in to LGBT community group, where you can ask question and meet people e.g.
  • Get a job, or learn a trade to be busy as to improve your mental health.
  • Go for a reliable partner that can help you focus .



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    6. shabnaz shabnaz on December 27, 2020 at 8:30 am

      Thank you for explaining the different types of sexual orientation. Indeed sexuality is a very important part of our personality and we should take the proper time to understand our sexual orientation and adopt healthy habits.

      • JEROME JEROME on December 28, 2020 at 7:16 pm

        Thanks for messaging us. We aim to share these valuable information to our members.
        We are sure that with a better understanding of our sexuality and choices we will think well also about the risk we get exposed as well.


    7. DrKR Dhar DrKR Dhar on December 30, 2020 at 7:26 am

      All men and women face certain health risks. However, GAY MEN AND MEN WHO HAVE SEX WITH MEN HAVE SOME SPECIFIC HEALTH CONCERNS.

      Although ONE’S individual risks are shaped by many factors beyond one’s sexual orientation and practices — including family history and age — it’s important to understand common health issues for gay men and steps one can take to stay healthy.

      Protect from sexually transmitted infections

      Men who have sex with men are at increased risk of contracting HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, as well as other sexually transmitted infections.

      To protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections:

      • Use a condom or other protection. Use a new condom every time you have sex, especially during anal sex but ideally during oral sex as well. Use only water-based lubricants, not petroleum jelly, body lotion or oils. Oil-based lubricants can weaken latex condoms and cause them to break.

      • Be monogamous. Another reliable way to avoid sexually transmitted infections is to stay in a long-term mutually monogamous relationship with a partner who isn’t infected.

      • Limit the amount of alcohol you drink, and don’t use drugs. If you’re under the influence, you’re more likely to take sexual risks. If you choose to use injectable drugs, don’t share needles.

      • Get vaccinated. Vaccinations can protect you from hepatitis A and hepatitis B, serious liver infections that can spread through sexual contact. Not all sexually transmitted infections are prevented by vaccines, however. Hepatitis C is not covered by any vaccine and can lead to liver failure, liver cancer and death. The human papillomavirus (HPV) vaccine is available to men up to age 26. HPV is associated with anal cancer in men who have sex with men.

      • Get tested and have your partner tested. Don’t have unprotected sex unless you’re certain you and your partner aren’t infected with HIV or other sexually transmitted infections. Testing is important because many people don’t know they’re infected, and others might not be honest about their health.

      • Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP). PrEP is a way for people who don’t have HIV to prevent HIV infection by taking a pill every day. Use of the combination drug emtricitabine-tenofovir (Truvada) can reduce the risk of sexually transmitted HIV infection in those who are at high risk. Truvada is also used as an HIV treatment along with other medications.

      When used to help prevent HIV infection, Truvada is only appropriate if your doctor is certain you don’t already have HIV. Your doctor should also test for hepatitis B infection. If you have hepatitis B, your doctor should test your kidney function before prescribing Truvada. The drug must also be taken daily exactly as prescribed. And it should only be used along with other prevention strategies such as condom use every time you have sex.

      Tackle depression
      Gay men and men who have sex with men might be at higher risk of depression and anxiety.
      If you’re reluctant to seek treatment, confide in a trusted friend or loved one. Sharing your feelings might be the first step toward getting treatment.

      Address body image concerns
      Gay men are more likely to experience body image problems and eating disorders, such as anorexia and bulimia nervosa, than are their straight counterparts.

      One potential explanation is that, as a result of growing up with images of slender and effeminate gay men or men with muscular bodies, some gay and bisexual men worry excessively about their weight.

      If you’re struggling with body image concerns or an eating disorder, get help. Talk to your doctor or a mental health provider about treatment options.

      Seek help for substance abuse
      Gay men are more likely to smoke than are heterosexual men and gay men are more likely to deal with alcoholism than is the general population.

      If you have a substance abuse concern, remember that help is available. Local lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender health, mental health, or community centers often provide substance abuse treatment. Organizations such as the GLMA also might provide referrals.

      Recognize domestic violence
      Domestic violence can affect anyone in an intimate relationship. Gay men might be more likely to stay silent about this kind of violence due to fear of discrimination and a lack of facilities designed to accommodate them.

      Staying in an abusive relationship might leave you depressed, anxious or hopeless. If you don’t want to disclose your sexual orientation, you might be less likely to seek help after an assault. Still, the only way to break the cycle of domestic violence is to take action — the sooner the better.

      Stay up to date on medications, vaccines, and screenings (any/all)

      Prevention, as they say, is the best medicine. Luckily, in the case of STIs and pregnancy, there are a number of risk reduction measures you can take.

      1. Stay up to date on vaccines

      • hepatitis A
      • hepatitis B
      • HPV vaccine

      Note: While the HPV vaccine was previously only recommended for people assigned female at birth, the current Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) guidelines recommendTrusted Source the vaccination for all folks between the ages of 11 and 26.

      Some 27- to 45-year-olds who aren’t already vaccinated may also decide to get the vaccine after assessing their risk for HPV.

      2. Consider PrEP

      Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) is a medication that an HIV-negative person can take daily to reduce their risk for contracting HIV while being sexual with an HIV-positive person.

      The CDC guidelines recommend Trusted Source PrEP for:
      • people who are sexual with an HIV-positive person
      • people who don’t consistently use barriers
      • anyone who’s been diagnosed with another STI within the last 6 months
      • anyone who uses or has a partner who uses intravenous substances and shares needles, syringes, or other equipment to inject

      If you fall into one or more of those groups, chat with your doc.
      Note: If you’re not on PrEP and suspect recent HIV exposure, you can take post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) within 72 hours to reduce transmission risk.

      3. Birth control (for Heterosexuals/ Bisexuals)

      Again, “Pregnancy is a risk when the involved parties have the anatomy for it,” Manduley says. If you’re looking to avoid pregnancy, talk to your doctor about your birth control options.

      If you aren’t on birth control and recently engaged in unprotected play with a partner who could get you pregnant, an emergency contraceptive can be used within 3 to 5 days (depending on the method) to stop a pregnancy before it starts.
      Make routine health care a priority

      Don’t let fear of homophobia or the stigma associated with homosexuality prevent you from seeking routine health care. Instead, take charge of your health.

      Look for a doctor who puts you at ease. Identify yourself as gay or bisexual, and ask about routine screenings recommended for men in your age group — such as blood pressure and cholesterol measurements and screenings for prostate, testicular and colon cancers.

      If you’re not in a long-term, mutually monogamous relationship, schedule regular screenings for sexually transmitted infections. Share any other health concerns you might have with your doctor as well. Early diagnosis and treatment help promote long-term health.

      For mental happiness and peace, which is always remain in, we must not go to search outside, we should try to make a bond in between ME & HE (soul connect to supreme soul)

      The serenity prayer may give us peace:

      God, give me grace to accept with serenity
      the things that cannot be changed,
      Courage to change the things
      which should be changed,
      and the Wisdom to distinguish
      the one from the other.

      By: Karl Paul Reinhold Niebuhr (1892–1971)

      Karl Paul Reinhold Niebuhr (1892–1971) was an American Reformed theologian, ethicist, commentator on politics and public affairs, and professor at Union Theological Seminary for more than 30 years. Niebuhr was one of America’s leading public intellectuals for several decades of the 20th century and received the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 1964. A public theologian, he wrote and spoke frequently about the intersection of religion, politics, and public policy, with his most influential books including Moral Man and Immoral Society and The Nature and Destiny of Man. The latter is ranked number 18 of the top 100 non-fiction books of the twentieth century by Modern Library. Andrew Bacevich labelled Niebuhr’s book The Irony of American History “the most important book ever written on U.S. foreign policy.” The historian Arthur Schlesinger Jr. described Niebuhr as “the most influential American theologian of the 20th century” and Time posthumously called Niebuhr “the greatest Protestant theologian in America since Jonathan Edwards.”


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